Last week I took a road trip with my son from North Carolina to my home state of New Jersey. It was my son’s spring break, and I figured it was a great time to visit my family and give us all an opportunity to spend some time together. My father is currently going through a health hurdle, and I wanted my son and me to be there to lend some support.

While I was there I wrote the following that was shared with a Facebook group that I am involved in. I wanted to share it as a blog because I think it can offer a different perspective on some things. So here it goes………

The topic of how to keep living the fat-loss lifestyle while away from home and our normal surroundings is always a hot topic. There is always quite a bit of chatter on tips to help navigate the situation…what to do, what to pack………

So I thought I would share with you what I packed….

I packed “permission”. Permission to allow myself to enjoy spending time with family and the food that comes with it. The first night we rolled into town I was met with homemade red wine and a meat pie. A meat pie is a traditional Italian speciality only found around Easter time. It is basically a Quiche on steroids! It is the most dense piece of deliciousness that I only get one time a year, and in fact it has been years since I have had it. So I have said on many occasions that if we are going to splurge – do it on the things we can’t get normally or are special to us in some way. The wine and the pie was worth the splurge! As I am typing this – I just wolfed down a couple of pieces of Taylor Pork Roll. If you are not from the Jersey area you probably won’t know what that is. Again – I don’t have this but maybe once a year – if that. It brings back wonderful memories of my family spending every summer at the Jersey shore eating pork roll sandwiches. And right now I will bask in those memories, and I will cherish that time and the time we have right now.

I packed “forgiveness”. I will forgive myself for the less than stellar food choices I am making, wipe my meat pie off my mouth and move on!

I packed “understanding”. The understanding to know that this is not my norm, and when I get back home – I will get right back on track (which I did, BTW). I am making new memories, and sometimes in my Italian household that involves food and wine. I am okay with that!

I packed “acceptance”. I will have to do a lot of accepting on this trip. I have to accept that my new reality involves my father fighting this health hurdle. I will accept the fact that long road trips, loved ones with illnesses, and not being in my own surroundings can lead to more stress which leads to defenses being down with food choices or motivation to work out. I accept that.

I packed “flexibility”. The ability to be flexible in this circumstance will be helpful. No matter where we go to eat, I can find something I can eat and will not freak out. This will give me a chance to off-set the meat pie and pork roll….maybe….just a little bit. Ha! 

I packed “the power of choice”. I am making these choices! No one is forcing me to eat or drink anything I don’t want. I am fully aware of the choices I am making. When asked if I wanted another piece of meat pie last night – I said, “no”. The one was enough to satisfy me, and I had expressed my power of choice and chose no. I chose to go the deli and order a Sloppy Joe sandwich – again, something that I haven’t had in years! Granted I had to remove the bread (no gluten for me), but I was able to enjoy the taste just the same.

And finally… I packed “a lot of love”. Love to give to my family and especially my dad who will need it at this difficult time…love for my Italian heritage and all the traditions that come with it (even if they are not fat-loss friendly)…love for my hometown where I grew up…love for old friends that even when we see each other so rarely it is like no time has gone by….and love for myself so that even when I am not making the best choices, they are still MY choices, and I will love me just the same.

PS – I did pack some of my individual protein packets so that at least I had something that was aligned with my goals.😉

We tend to focus on the physical things to pack when we are going to be away from home (such as workout gear, mini blenders, various foods…) that can keep us better aligned with our goals, and that is a wonderful strategy to have. I do encourage that, and most times when I do travel – I make a conscious effort to pack those physical things too! But I wanted to put a different spin on travel and focus more on the mind-set piece of all of this.

No matter what we do or don’t do – the key is to be kind to ourselves, forgive and move on! 

So it has been some time since my last blog, and I apologize for that. I was heavily involved in a program to become a Nutritional Therapy Practitioner which I successfully completed. Many have asked when I was going to start up again – so here it is. I must admit that this blog was one that I wrote last year that was published in Today’s Charlotte Woman magazine. I wanted to share it again this year since many were not able to read it due to fact that the magazine is a local one. I also think that it is worth repeating especially given the time of year that is upon us.  

10, 9, 8,…3, 2, 1 and just like that the New Year has begun. With it comes the onset of yet another year’s worth of what I think to be one of the greatest mystifying concepts of all time: The New Year’s Resolution. Many have played the “game”, but how many make it to the finish line? Somehow, the resolution has developed into a right of passage that one has to go through in order to pay homage to the dawn of the new year. Well, I say, “Bah Humbug” to all that stress – because when all is said and done, that’s what the whole resolution thing has brought me in the past. A sense of stress. Sure, it’s the new year with its hopes of bringing fresh new opportunities and a chance to start over… to get things right, so to speak. I fully support the concept and wish luck to those embarking on yet another resolution-making spree. As for me, ho-hum… been there, done that.

But I’ll take a moment to play nice. If a resolution was in the cards for me this year. Maybe this would be the year I resolve to make my bed every day. But then I think: Why start now? It has served me well unmade for 40 years. It’s way more inviting when it’s not made, anyhow. Besides, who am I trying to impress?

Or, maybe I will actually attempt the feat of putting away my clean clothes from my laundry basket on a consistent basis rather than pulling them out on a need-to-wear basis. Nah! The end result is the same – eventually my clothes move from the basket to another location, and then the process starts all over again.

Oh, wait a minute! I have a good one. How about I make that oh-so-familiar New Year’s resolution to get skinnier…to get my body to where it actually matches up with the mental picture in my head? But then it hits me that it would require defying the law of gravity – woman’s enemy No. 1. And you know, I’ve heard duct tape is quite the versatile, all-purpose, fix anything- in- a- pinch type tool. Hmmm – I wonder!

This year, I have decided to sit the whole resolution thing out. Oh the sound of gasps everywhere. The arguments abound… “But it’s tradition…” or, “Don’t you want to reach for a goal?” Of course I do, but I want to do it with a mantra, not a resolution. My mantra for the new year is, “Strong is the New Skinny.”** And while I can’t take credit for the creation of that powerful statement; I can sure put it to good use. This year, I want to redefine what really matters to me. There was a time when skinny was my top priority every new year. So like I said, “Been there, done that”. I’m over it! Now, my focus is to be strong… strong in all the ways that encompass who I am and who I continually strive to be: a strong woman, wife, and mother, and one with a strong body, mind, and soul.

As this new year unfolds, I wish everyone all the best for a happy and healthy one. As for me, I will graciously bow out from any resolution chatter, but know that I’ll be rooting from the sidelines for everyone to make it to the finish line!

Happy New Year to all!!!

**Yes – I know what some of you are thinking: I have heard that statement (strong is the new skinny) so many times in the past year that it makes me ill now! Well this was written last year, and honestly I still think it can have value. Focus on being a strong confident person in everything you do. That strength is something that you can draw from in every aspect of your life. All the best to you and yours in 2014!

“I can see clearly now the ‘grain’ is gone,

I can see all obstacles in my way

Gone are the dark clouds that had me blind

It’s gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)

Sun-shiny day.”

I frequently get asked why I went grain free (and subsequently Paleo) from people, so I thought I would use this blog to give you some insight. There are many reasons why I decided to jump into this lifestyle and not look back and some are explained here.

So it has been about a year and a half since removing all grains, especially gluten containing grains, from my diet. No small feat I might add being that I am 100% Italian! The pasta, the amazing bread, the tiramisu – oh the tiramisuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu……… Oh I’m sorry – I must have leaned on the “u” key as I went into my sugar coma just thinking about the tiramisu. (BTW – if you are ever in Summit, NJ, stop by Marco Polo’s Restaurant and get a piece of their tiramisu. Best.Tiramisu.Ever!) And that then leads me to one of the points for this blog.

Ever since removing grains/gluten and products made with grains and replacing that caloric deficit with good quality protein, more fiber from veggies/fruit and good sources of carbs such as sweet potato  – I definitely can see clearer now. The fog, “the dark clouds” have all been removed and things are so much brighter. That is not to say that I am in a euphoric state all day, every day – oh no no no no my friends – I have too many witnesses that will attest otherwise, so I can’t even begin to lie about that if I wanted to. But what I do mean is that I can definitely see things with more mental clarity.

I am also not having those extreme highs and lows from eating the grain/gluten containing food. I know you know what I am talking about. A big pancake breakfast made from grains (and yes the same goes for the angelic whole grains) when consumed will wreak havoc on your blood sugar level. Not to mention the sugar that they are topped off with in the form of syrup -typically containing high fructose corn syrup – will add to the misery. Then, shortly thereafter, as you are going about your day…BAM! It hits you: the blood sugar slump. Nap time, anyone?

“I think I can make it now, the ‘grain’ is gone

All of the bad feelings have disappeared

Here is the ‘answer’ I’ve been prayin’ for

It’s gonna be a bright (bright), bright (bright)

Sun-shiny day.”

Another wonderful benefit I have experienced since going grain/gluten-free is that I no longer have that annoying bloat and that uneasy feeling in my stomach (kind of like burpees on a full stomach) along with the bizarre noises that made their presence known! There were times when the noise coming from my stomach sounded like a scene from Nightmare on Elm Street with Freddy Krueger and his stomach (totally just dated myself). The sound and feeling were if an alien was going to pop out at any minute. My polite response when people would whip their heads around like Linda Blair in the Exorcist was, “Oh I am so sorry. I am just REALLY hungry.” No – hunger was not the issue – I had just eaten!

And of course it would happen at the most inopportune times such as the part of a wedding when it is announced, “Does anyone have any reason why this man and this woman should not be wed? Speak now or forever hold your peace.” What my stomach actually heard was, “Ready. Set. Gooooooo… Make unruly embarrassing noises!” Grrrr. I used to wonder why I was always feeling this way. It took me many years and a lot of embarrassing moments later to figure it out. Now I have my answer. Whew! (Thanks to a Whole30 challenge – more on that at the bottom.)

Do I ever indulge in gluten containing foods, you ask? I haven’t thus far. It is not worth the pain, and to be truthful there are so many amazing foods out there that have filled the gap. For instance, I now use spaghetti squash in place of pasta, and I top it off with whatever I would have used on regular pasta.

I would not, could not, eat a grain/gluten containing ordinary food by my own volition. It is not to say that I won’t ever – I am human. But in that case it must be so special, so amazing, for me to put my body in that position where I know I will most likely end up sick. I do, on occasion, eat some rice here and there – but that’s it.

I do suspect that I have unwittingly exposed myself to it going out to eat even though I have requested no grains/gluten. Those were most likely the times where I have not felt well afterwards.  I have allowed myself the occasional gluten-free homemade or bakery made cookie/muffin/pancake/ and have even tried gluten-free pizza. However, they still do not make me feel well. And when I do it, I fully understand that I have made the choice and am fully prepared to deal with the consequences; albeit they are far less severe than if it was a grain/gluten food.

Sticking with a nutrient dense, whole foods approach to my nutrition has served me well from the mental clarity to the cessation of digestive issues to  no more highs and lows caused from food, to name a few. Highs and lows from food – I said. People and life are a different story😉

I make no apology for you now having that song stuck in your head. In fact I am hoping that the song will inspire you to do some introspection and see if there is anything in your life that will help you see clearer now once it is removed – from food to clutter to toxic relationships and the like. Good luck, and please let me know if you learn anything about yourself like I did.

“Look all around, there’s nothin’ but blue skies

Look straight ahead, nothin’ but blue skies.”

*Yes – I took some poetic license with this song. So now I give credit where credit is due. “I Can See Clearly Now” was written and recorded by Johnny Nash.

*If you suspect that certain foods may be negatively impacting your health you may want to consider an elimination diet for a month or so.

It just might change your life…it just might save your life!!!

It did mine!

whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you.”  Ah – one of the classic sayings of childhood.  Let’s see – do you remember the ever so popular, “liar, liar, pants on fire”?  Given the opportunity I would have triple dog dared someone at the past political debates to stand up and exclaim that very phrase!  Wouldn’t that have been a moment to go down in history – sort of like Rudolph the Red Nosed reindeer?  Okay, okay, so I digress a little bit.  Here’s another classic from my younger days – “If insert name here jumped off the (fiscal) cliff – would you do it too?”  Sorry – couldn’t resist, and yes, I know the word really should be bridge!

There are many of those childhood sayings that I wish I could pull out sometimes just to see people’s reaction.  But we are not children anymore and adulthood means conducting ourselves in an appropriate manner and showing self-control (for the most part).  So why is it that some of us still resort to child like behavior when it comes to peer pressure, especially when food is involved?  This time of year the opportunity for that pressure seems to be awaiting around every corner.  No longer can we point to someone as we are shoveling countless holiday cookies in our mouths and say with an emphatic tone, “S/he made me do it!”  The cookies, the candy, the cocktails, the fruit cake (ha) – well maybe not the fruit cake – any and all food vices seem to congregate and make their presence known on many occasions.

So as adults we can not pull out those lines that we tried so hard to use as justification for our behavior as a child.  No one makes us do anything!  We are adults here.  We do not have to eat anything that we don’t want to.  Here a few pointers that I have learned along the way in my quest for better health, and I share them in the hopes that they can be take-aways for you…

1.  This is my journey.  This is not about anyone else.  I am sorry if so-and-so will be offended if I don’t partake in the cookie platter, but when all is said and done it is my gluten-free stomach that will be crying out for mercy and my health that will suffer just so that so-and-so is appeased.  Sorry!  I don’t play that game anymore.  So bring on the stares, the comments because I am rubber and they are glue…just kidding!!!  You have your own journey, too!  Be your best advocate for it! 

2.  No, thank you, is an acceptable polite adult response.  We teach our kids to “Just Say No”, yet we don’t always exercise this same conviction.  So the next time someone offers you something you really don’t want – what are you going to say?  Remember – go back and see point #1…who’s journey is this?  That’s right – it’s yours.

3.  Don’t open Pandora’s Box.  Many times we call attention to ourselves by the little comments we make and unsuspectingly draw an audience by our own actions.  So many times I hear things like, “oh I really shouldn’t be eating this”… “I am going to have to exercise extra hard this week just to work all of these calories off”…etc. You get the idea.  I have been guilty of this in the past, and I have to remind myself to keep those things at bay from time-to-time even now.  The more we make comments like that, the more people think it is okay to then banter back and forth with you about whether you are on a diet, or why you can’t or shouldn’t be eating something.  I am all about the honesty factor and if someone questions me out of their own volition then I have no problem saying that I can’t have that cookie because I don’t eat gluten and grains.  I will gladly answer any questions someone may have –especially if I know it may shed light and help them in any way. 

Those are just a few quick tips that have helped me along way to remember that I am an adult capable of making my own decisions not based on peer pressure, but instead based on what is aligned with my health needs.  Of course that is not to say I can’t be persuaded to have a glass of wine or two!  Or even a gluten-free cookie or two or three… 

So just remember that even though we would like to pull a line or two from our childhood, it is probably best to leave them in our past!  We need to be the adults that we are and take a stand for our own individual journey, our own health.  Be strong, my friends!


* Just in case I can’t post again for a couple of weeks…I wish you all a very happy and healthy holiday season and may the New Year bring you all the best.     

I have never seen the Seven Wonders of the World, and as I sit here now and think about it – there is a good chance I never will.  But I have my own 7 wonders.  The Seven Wonders of My World! They aren’t things to do, or even places to visit.  Instead they are things that baffle me.  Curious if any of them will resonate with you!  In the case of #7 – I am hoping to shed some light on one of the biggest wonders out there.

So here it goes…my list of wonders … 

  1. I wonder why the use of the car blinker has gone the way of the Dodo bird.  Yes – I still use mine.  I’m good like that!
  2. I wonder why the word “no” to a child is an open invitation to incessantly ask the very same question that was already answered with the “no” (BTW – when my son pulls this little maneuver – my response is always “asked and answered” which drives him insane, but it puts an end to the pestering.)  Okay – now for some food/health related ones since my blogs are technically about health related topics 
  3. I wonder why the FDA allows the food companies to put brightly colored pictures of luscious fruit on packages of cereal, frozen waffles and pancakes, yogurt, etc. when there is not a hint of real fruit in them as long as the word “flavored” is on the front of the label.  (Anyone see this on the Today show 11/14?  Just one of the food industry’s unsavory practices.)
  4. I wonder why a salad dressing that says olive oil and vinegar on the front (supposed to be an Italian vinaigrette – BTW) then lists as its very first ingredient soybean oil.  Really?!  Soybean oil!  That’s an insult to all things Italian. So yes – I am insulted!  It isn’t until some ingredients later that olive oil is finally listed. 
  5. I wonder why the words healthy and natural are tossed around by the food industry more times than a Valley Girl can say the word like in a day.  Like please tell me you like know what a Valley Girl is! 
  6. I wonder why the food industry would also like us to think that something that is laced with additives, did not originate in nature and has a substantial shelf life would be a healthier option than one that doesn’t contain an ingredient list, or if it does it is minimal.  Butter, for instance, is cream and salt.  Badda bing, badda bang!
  7. I wonder why people are still so afraid of fat.  First off, you can not lump all fats together.  Fats that are partially hydrogenated…hydrogenated…highly processed vegetable oils…fried fats… and the very toxic Trans Fats that are a result of the hydrogenation process – yes –  those you should be very afraid of.  In fact walk run far, far away from them.  Something like the fat in an avocado, some grass-fed butter, olive oil, etc., have beneficial effects on the body and should not be feared when consumed in conjunction with a balanced whole foods nutrient dense diet.  The mentality that if you eat fat you will get fat is still a steadfast truth in the minds of many.  It is not that simple.  The body does not function in such simplistic terms.  This is definitely not a case of where 2+2=4.  You’re body needs fat in order to function and thrive.  Fats also add flavor to foods; help keep you satiated longer since they take longer to digest; are important in the make up of cell membranes; and provide the body with fuel, to name just a few of its functions. Most people think of Carbs for fuel and that is very much the truth, but it is not the whole picture.  The body uses fats, too.  Did you know that the heart’s preferred fuel is fat?  Remember that the heart is a muscle, too.  

Consider this – when fat is removed from a food what do you think is added in order to make that food palatable?  If you guessed sugar – you are correct!  So as a society for years now we have been on a no-fat/low-fat kick and yet the obesity rate continues to climb and cases of diabetes, cancer and other diseases show no signs of stopping.  What gives?  Please do not be fooled into thinking that just because a so-called food has no fat in it that it is somehow better for you. 

Remember to include healthy fats in balance with good quality protein sources and carbs! 

And now a new wonder – I wonder why I am still rambling on with this blog.  I am done now.  ’nuff said.  That is all!


I would like to remind everyone especially if you are new here that I make no judgments on anyone for what they eat, how they think, and what they do.  I only present info in the hopes of  getting people to think outside the Conventional Wisdom box.  There is a lot of exciting information when you do!   

This is a judgment-free zone!

Digestion.  Really?  Why do a blog about digestion?  Well…Did you know that a large portion of your immune system lies in your digestive tract?  It has been said around 70% or more!  If things are going wrong in your digestive tract then it is extremely likely that you are having issues that are manifesting themselves in other ways throughout your body.  Got to keep the gut happy!

So a few things about digestion.  If you think digestion starts in your mouth – think again.  It actually starts in the brain.  You know when you have had that experience where you just smell food, or see it, and your mouth begins to water?  That’s the start of the digestive process.  Those are the salivary glands producing saliva in anticipation for what is to come and saying, “let the games begin…bring on the food!”  Digestion is a north to south process beginning in your head and ending with your – well, you know!  The following are a few ways to make digestion go more smoothly and ultimately help to keep your gut happy. 

  1. Will you sit, please?!  How many of you stand when eating, eat while walking out the door, or eat in the car, etc?  When you do that you are immediately putting your body in what is called a sympathetic state – a “fight or flight” state.  When the body is in that state, it has to divert energy and blood flow elsewhere in the body, and therefore will not have the ability to use those two things for proper digestion which are components in the overall act of digesting. In order to set your body up for appropriate digestive function you need to be in a parasympathetic state – a more relaxed, calm state of being.  So now you have a snippet of insight as to one of the reasons why you may always have indigestion when you eat on the run.
  2. Put that fork down!  In our fast paced lives many of us are not even enjoying our food, but rather shoveling it into our mouths and gulping it down.  Try to put your fork down after each bite to slow the process of eating and take the time to really taste your food.  For many, this will be one of the few times during the day where they will actually be able to sit and relax.  Not only will you be able to enjoy your food in that parasympathetic state, but you will also allow your brain and stomach to catch up to each other in terms of the signals for satiety.  Your body knows what it is doing – just give it the time it needs to do its job.  (I need to work on this, too!)  This leads me into the third thing to help digestion go more smoothly and it relates to number 2…
  3. Chew, baby, chew!  This goes without saying, but I am going to say it anyway – CHEW YOUR FOOD!  The more you chew your food, the less work your digestive system has to do in order to break food down and the less chance you will feel crummy after a meal.
  4. I’m going to have to ask you to slowly step away from the soda can, and don’t even think about taking any fast sips!  Drinking soda (or other carbonated beverages for that matter) will turn on that sympathetic “flight or flight” state again and will halt digestion.  There are also other issues with soda, not just from a digestion disruptor point of view.  High Fructose Corn Syrup (HFCS), artificial sweeteners in diet soda, the phosphoric acid leaching calcium out of the bones, the brown coloring used is also very suspect at this point, etc.  Hmmm…sounds delicious?
  5. Inspector POOseau  Yup.  We have to go there!  Turn around, look in the bowl and inspect your poop.  Your poop – okay I will act my age…your stool, your feces, your bowel movement – whatever your pleasure – will tell give you signs as to whether or not your digestive system is functioning properly.  Undigested food, coloring, shape, size, and odor can be indicators of “alls well that ends well” (ha) or that you need to take a look behind the scenes. (Sorry! I couldn’t resist.)  Again – digestion is a north to south process, so if something is not right down south, you need to keep going north to find the problem.


These were just 5 aspects to keep in mind regarding optimizing your digestion, and they are all things that you can implement immediately.  We tend to just think of the act of putting food into our mouth as just eating.  It is not just eating.  It is a whole process of digestion whereby the body is going to break down the food to get the nutrients that it needs to thrive in a healthy manner.  If we remember from above that a large portion of our immune system lies within our gut – then it isn’t too hard to understand the importance of good nutrition and a healthy functioning digestive system. 

Happy digestion to all, and to all a good gut!

This relationship of ours just isn’t working for me anymore.   I’m sorry.  It’s not you, it’s me.  I’ve changed.  I am not the same person I used to be when we first meet as childhood sweethearts.  I have done some growing, and I am seeing things much clearer now.  I realize that I want something different from you, but the damage has already been done for us. We just have too much history together to ever get on the right track.  I think we need to just go our separate ways so that I am free to see other food

You and I go back many years, and I will always hold a special place for you in my heart. I will never forget the good times we had.  Remember when you were my reward?  You were always there for me when I did something well.  When I got a good grade on a test, you were there in the form of an ice cream sundae.  Or the time I got straight A’s on my report card – what a celebration that was!  Unfortunately, I relied too much on you to be my reward and it started at such a young age.  Now that I am grown, I want more out of a reward.  I want to treat myself to things like a massage, a good book, or a new piece of clothing.  Sometimes it is as simple as a long hot bath or a long walk!   

You were always there for me when times were tough.  You provided comfort to me when I was stressed, feeling gloomy, tired, bored, or lonely, etc.  Ahh – chips, cookies, ice cream… you never let me down.  I just can’t use you as a crutch anymore.  I am learning to turn to exercise to release my stress; call a friend when I am sad or lonely; get more sleep so that I am not tired all the time; and I find other things to occupy my time when I am bored .  I realized that you may have provided me with what I thought was comfort in the moment, but that so-called comfort only led to more feelings such as frustration and disappointment and in the end my original feelings were still there.   

Yes – you really knew how to reward and comfort me, but oh, you definitely mastered the art of guilt with me.  You would just stare up at me from your plate.  I could hear this voice as if you were whispering right in my ear saying that I couldn’t leave the table until I finished you because of all the starving children in the world.  The guilt was all-consuming, and I just had to finish you even though my body signals were telling me I was full and couldn’t possibly eat another bite!  That guilt really messed me up – even as an adult!  For the longest time I didn’t know how to listen to my own body – it was all about you.  Well, no more!  When I am satisfied – I stop.  I have realized that if I want to help starving children around the world, it’s certainly not going to be by finishing you even when I am full.  You can’t guilt me anymore.

And while we are on the subject of the unhealthy parts of our relationship, let’s not forget the way you managed to be a punishment for me.  If I didn’t want to finish all of you (especially the veggies), I wasn’t allowed to have dessert or even worse – I was made to sit there at the table for hours.  I have even heard stories from my friends in bad relationships with food that said their punishment for not finishing that plate at dinner was to see it again for breakfast.  Talk about a disturbing relationship with food! 

So you see, FOOD, as I said before it’s not you, it’s me. I have learned that I have had an unhealthy attachment to you for many years that I have allowed to go on, but now we need to break-up.  I am moving on to Mr. Food as Fuel.  He provides me with nourishment and keeps me completely satisfied…all day long! 

I wish only the best for you. If you really care about me, and I know you do after all these years,  you will wish me the best, too.   

These concepts of food as a reward, comfort, guilt, and punishment are taken from the book Mindless Eating by Brian Wansink.   Most of us can probably identify with some, or even all of the concepts.  Maybe it is how we were raised to think about food.  It may also be how some of us are now raising our children to think about food.  It is never too late to work on breaking up with your unhealthy relationship with food and begin the process of working on a new one without any strings attached.  I am hoping that by bringing these concepts to light we can more easily recognize them in our own life and work on freeing ourselves from the damaging attachments that binds us to our food.     

Beauty and the Feast

Posted: September 26, 2012 in Food, Healthy Living, Nutrition

You have been invited to a restaurant that is purely a buffet style establishment.  Red flags are going off left and right as images of sugary. creamy. gluttonous. foods dance in your head.  Or maybe you are going on a cruise where the buffets are infamous and many a tale has been told about the deliciousness that awaits you.  It could just simply be a potluck style meal at your friends.  No matter the scenario, these situations can cause anxiety as you ask yourself one question: How do I navigate the beauty of the buffets while sticking to a sensible eating strategy?  Because when all is said and done, those buffets can be a down right beautiful feast – fountains flowing with liquid chocolate that remind you of a scene from the movie Willie Wonka; cakes and pies galore all enticing your senses; and ewey gooey goodness around every corner! 

Here are few tips to keep in mind to help you enjoy those types of situations and still make it out feeling good about your choices and leaving without a doggy bag of guilt!

Let’s use the word FEAST:

F = Forgo.  Forgo the ordinary.  Don’t go to a buffet just to pile the ordinary on your plate.  That being said – let me explain.  I am in no way condoning eating all of the delicious looking foods at that buffet.  What I am saying is first start with your protein and veggies (which, BTW, should be one of your first go-to strategies for any dining experience) and then if you are going to splurge a bit – go for the things that you may not be able to get on a day-to-day basis, or the things that are special to that area/restaurant.

E = Eat something small before arriving.  NEVER, EVER go into a buffet situation starving.  All bets are off at that point.  Clear minded decisions will be clouded by hunger. Period!

A = Assess the situation.  Before picking up your plate and starting at one end of the buffet to pile on food, first assess what is being offered.  This is not a race where there is a starting line and a finish line.  There is no buffet etiquette book that says you must put something of everything on your plate.  Assess the types of foods so that you can begin to make a plan in your head.  Ever start at a buffet and be piling food on your plate only to find about half way through it there was something better?  It could have been a food more aligned to your eating style or even something grander than what’s on there now. But now what? You have loaded so much on your plate and obviously you can’t waste it (wink,wink), nor can you put it back.  

S = Start Small.  Go with a small portion and then run  ~I meant walk ~ back to your seat. Go with protein and veggies first (as mentioned above) to help with the satiety factor.  If you have eaten your food (slowly, chewing and savoring every bite) and still feel like you want another somethin’ somethin’ – then make another trip.  However, if you pile your plate on your first trip – even if you find yourself not hungry anymore – chances are if it is sitting there staring at you – you will continue to pick at that food.

T = Think!  Plain and simple. You have to be discerning when it comes to a buffet.  What is most important to you?    What are your goals?  How do you want to feel after this buffet?  Somehow when presented with a variety of options most of us lose all sense of rationale thinking.  Take a step back and Think.

These 5 steps will help when a smattering of food choices is all just a plate away.  Don’t let the beauty of the feast turn you into the foodie and the beast!

“You’re So Vain…

Posted: August 29, 2012 in Healthy Living

You probably think this ‘blog’ is about you.  You’re so vain.  I bet you think this ‘blog’ is about you.  Don’t you?  Don’t you?”* 

Well – in a way – it is!  It’s about you and me! 

What drives us to embark on a journey of fat-loss?  I am guessing that if I polled a number of you the answers would sound something like, “I want to look good in my jeans (bathing suit, any other apparel)”, “I want to look good naked”, “I want to look good for an upcoming school reunion (wedding, vacation…)” , etc.  You get the point.  More often than not it is for vanity sake that drives us to make changes.  I am not ashamed to admit that I am guilty of that and it is partly the reason I do what I do.  But I can also freely share that I have matured beyond that one reason – a process that has been both enlightening and exciting all at the same time.  Part of the equation now is health. Thriving, not just surviving, and being there for my family. Vanity may be our knee-jerk reaction to get us motivated to make changes in our lives when it comes to our nutritional and exercise habits, but vanity can only take us so far.  What happens when that pair of jeans does finally fit?  Is it all bets are now off?  That event has come and gone. Are the habits you developed along the way preparing for that event gone too?  See?  There has to be more that drives us to continue to put our health first.  Here are some things to help get you started…

  1. Think to yourself …who are the people I get out of bed for each and every day?  Grab some pictures of them and keep them in a spot that are easily viewed by you.  Use them as a constant reminder as to why you are choosing to make changes in your life.  These changes will not only impact you, but will also impact them in a positive way.  They may not see it that way at first, but ultimately any healthy change is a good change for all.  Don’t forget to include a picture of YOU!  You should be reason numero uno!  If you have ever been on an airplane and actually listened to the flight staff give their safety speech – you know that they always tell you to put the oxygen mask on you first and then others.  You will be no good to others if you don’t take care of yourself first!


  1. Just because you have no weight to lose, or you may have already reached your goal doesn’t mean you can eat anything you want.  Sorry!  I hear this all the time especially when people refer to their spouse and/or children.  Fat-loss is NOT the only reason to establish a lifestyle filled with the proper clean foods and the avoidance of Frakenfoods.  So when I hear a person say, “But it is so hard.  My husband/wife/child does not have to lose weight.”  My reply is, “But do they need to be healthy?”  That reply is a show stopper.  Really – who is going to respond NO to that question?!  EVERYONE – no matter what age- needs to be concerned with good health whether it is the child that could stand to learn good healthy habits at a young age, or it is the adult that needs to keep the plethora of illnesses out there in the forefront to ignite change.  Maybe they are even wrestling with one right now.  Good health should not be selective. We certainly all know diseases are not!


  1. Make it a family affair.  This is a continuation of number 2.  Let the kids pick out a new recipe to try that peaks their interest and yet is still a healthy option.  Let them then help prepare it.  Spouses/Adults who are set in their ways may be a harder sell.  Start with swapping out unhealthy ingredients for better options.  Be adventurous with spices so that flavor is not compromised.  Go for a walk as a family.  And one of the biggest keys here is to communicate!  Why are you making changes?  What’s the payoff?  They need to see the value in the upheaval that you have graciously bestowed upon them.  Wink, wink!


  1. If you are single – you are not excluded from this!  You need to be healthy too.  Find a friend that you can use as an accountability partner and tell them what you are doing.  Explain what you may need from them along the way.  Don’t get in the take-out, fast-food rut.  Explore the internet for new recipes and try to make a new one each week.  Be adventurous!


  1. Plain and simple – be a role model…be a catalyst for change…if others are not ready to join you that is no reason to stop you in your quest.   


So yes – vanity may propel us all to make much-needed lifestyle changes and that is a great start, but remember to dig deeper and find what truly matters on the inside as well.  Good luck on your journey to be healthy.  I am here if you need me!


*How many of you will now have that song stuck in your head?!!!  Oh please, tell me you even know of the song!!!

More often than not I receive a look of bewilderment when people realize such things as the fact that I eat eggs everyday and that I am also not afraid of butter.  These are just two examples –trust me when I say that there are many more that warrant perplexing looks!  We are told to stay away from eating these two foods otherwise we risk the potential for developing high cholesterol and eventually heart disease.  These two foods (along with many others) have been the subject of scrutiny throughout the years and conventional wisdom keeps perpetuating a certain way of thinking and masking some of the facts. 

So from the title of this blog you clearly know which food I am going to focus on today.  I will offer my reasons for using butter as opposed to a margarine type spread.  I am including a link that will provide you with a well-versed and researched explanation with references of why butter is a much better option than what we have been told for many years.  I strongly encourage you to read it as it will put perspective on an otherwise cloudy area for most people.  With everything – make the best decision for you, but at least you will be more informed to make that decision.  What works for me, may not work for you.  (Of course if you have a dairy allergy – then the whole butter argument may be moot in your book.  Ever tried Ghee? )

So why do I use butter?  Plain and simple….

1.  Butter is real and margarine type spreads are “fake” in my opinion. The ingredients for butter are simply cream and salt.  Margarine, on the other hand, contains things like soybean oil, partially hydrogenated soy oil,  whey (which is a component of milk…”eating her curds and whey”…wish I had known that when that ridiculous nursery rhyme was being told to me as a kid), salt, mono and diglycerides… depending on the brand the ingredients will vary.

2.  I can make butter in my kitchen. Margarine – not so much!



That pretty much sums up that point.  Just make sure the cows that the butter comes from have been feed properly.  Butter from grass-fed cows is the best.  Organic butter, too!  Be cautious of using regular butter due to the fact that the cows may have not been fed properly therefore you are getting the byproducts of the improper diet of the cow.  However, if regular butter is all you can do to make the switch from a questionable spread then that may be a better choice for you.

4.  Butter has health benefits!  Yup – you read that right!  Here is the link I referred to above…

5.  And lastly, if I am going to eat something such as butter, I would prefer it to be the real thing in taste, quality, and ingredients.  If you watch the link from one of my favorite TV shows – at the end of the clip – I have to agree with the character’s sentiments all the way.

So yes – You butter believe it – I love me some butter!


*As with any diet or lifestyle change you need to do your own research and feel comfortable with your own conclusions and decisions that may result from that very research.  Again – it is worth repeating – that what I have researched and deemed appropriate for my life, may not be for yours.  I wanted to take the time in this blog to express my rationale for picking butter due to the fact I have been asked on numerous occasions.  I am not one to take Conventional Wisdom as gospel – if that was the case – I would be consuming margarine type spreads instead of butter!